Most people have heard the idea that we’re very influenced by the 5 people we spend the most time with. But are those people helping you on your way to a 4-Day Work Week, or hindering it? In this episode, find out how to make sure your relationships align with your aims – without hurting anyone.

Most people have heard the idea that we’re very influenced by the 5 people we spend the most time with. But are those people helping you on your way to a 4-Day Work Week, or hindering it? In this episode, find out how to make sure your relationships align with your aims – without hurting anyone.

Who are the people you spend the most time with outside of work? Are they happy? Are they fulfilled? Are they fun to be around? And who are the five people you spend the most time with in your career? Whether it be in your work, as an entrepreneur, freelancer, whatever it might be. Who are those people? I ask this because something you maybe you've heard of is that for most of us there is this idea that we are very influenced by and in fact very similar to the five people we spend the most time with.

So it kind of goes back to that saying birds of a feather flock together. In my experience, There can be a slight difference in the sense that the people that I hang out with in my life outside of work might be a very different group than the people I hang out with inside work. And that can still be a positive thing.

So for example, the people I hang out with on Fridays that play beach volleyball don't have all the same career aspirations as I do, but we share beach volleyball in common. Some of the parents and families my wife and my kids and I hang out with over the weekend have a similarity of the school or there's commonalities there, but the same questions apply.

Are these people happy? Are they engaged? Are they fulfilled? Are they enjoying life? And in my case, most of the people I invest time with. Those people meet those criteria, and so that makes it easier for me to be in that space. Similarly, in a workspace, the people that I'm looking to be around most and I do my best to fill my time up with in a good way, are clients who want to evolve and have a big mission in the world.

People who want to make a great impact and make an income as they help others. The partners, business partners, I look for other entrepreneurs to partner with. I have the same criteria. People who want to make a big impact in the world, help others and yes, make a big income also. And so in all of this, it then begs this question, well then what do you have to give up?

And this is probably the toughest thing for some people when they start on any path of growth. If you're on the soccer team with your best buddy and your buddy decides not to practice soccer a lot and you start practicing soccer a lot, you might end up on the next higher level team. And so you might not have as much time in that friendship with that friend because now you moved up to the advanced team.

Now it doesn't mean you've hurt the relationship, but the relationship has changed. So one of the things that shows up both in business and in the personal life is. People sometimes have a hard time letting go, and when it comes to what you have to give up in your life to be in a four day workweek situation, a lot of it can sometimes come down to who do you have to give up?

And I want you to take this in a more moderate way than I first took it in when I heard it. When I first took it in, I assumed it had to be something that was very extreme. It had to be this dramatic. Well, I've got a clear house of all my friends, unless they're worthy of me or as involved as I am, everybody out.

And that's not what this is. That can actually be very cruel. That can be very condescending. It can be very arrogant. Uh, and it might not even be accurate. You might not be all that just yet. But, at the same time, you might start to look at, let's say, the activities. And you might say, okay, I've got this group that does an activity that I no longer want to do.

Maybe that's an activity I think that isn't taking me where I want to be. And if I change that activity, I might tell those people, okay, everybody, I'm now going to go do this other activity over here, and if you want to join me, you might You're more than welcome to join me. I'd love you to meet me there, but I'm not doing this anymore.

So if all you're doing is this activity over here I'm only over here, because this one for me, it's just not really working out. And so, in that sense, it's not so much this thing that's sometimes taught in a very intense way, that we have to give up and cut all these relationships from your life.

Certainly, if there's a people that are bringing you down, that they're a drag, that they're a pain in the butt, and you don't want to be around them, by all means, as lovingly as you can, Either move on from those relationships or invest as little time as you can in those relationships. And we all know, sometimes, family members, whether they be in laws or our own family, can meet that type of criteria.

But overall, rather than seeing this as some sort of cold turkey, immediate just cutting of relationships, Just see it as two people going different directions. So if you're in a relationship, whether it be a friendship, a partnership, a business partnership, romantic relationship, and you start to see things you're going that, that's okay.

Just let everybody kind of do what they're doing. If they go different directions, it doesn't have to be that. It doesn't have to be I'm going that way and you're going the other way. It can be something a lot less dramatic. But all that being said, if you're going to a situation where you say, Wade, currently, to sort of draw a contrast here, I'm currently an overworking, uh, 60 to 80 hour a week entrepreneur, or employee, or salesperson, or whatever it is, whatever the exact position is, but I'm with this group of people that's working 80 hours and I'm chasing the things and the toys and whatever.

And now I want to be in this position where I'm just more creating quality of life. I might still say to those people, Hey, you know how we play basketball on, on Tuesday mornings or whatever? I still want to play basketball. But the other times where we're doing all this late night working and all, I'm not doing that anymore.

Or maybe, you know, we're partying hard and maybe you're at a stage, say, wait, I'm past the partying hard stage, whatever it might be. And if you're still partying hard, good, enjoy, party on. But whatever it is that you just get clear and you just start moving towards, you know, What you want, not so much focused on moving away from a group, not thinking you're better than them, not trying to prove to them that you can make it without them, just easing off and moving in the direction you want.

And some people you'll still keep in contact with, certainly, uh, such a difference from years ago with social media, you can still keep in touch with these people and maybe you're moving on to a better life inspires them, maybe it lets them see that they're happy where they are. But certainly there will be things that if you're going to change, You'll need to give up.

It doesn't necessarily have to be the people, but you'll usually find that it's going to be at least the activities or how much time you invest in those people and as you move in the direction you most want, you'll start seeing what you want to create show up in your life. And if it turns out that that's not what you wanted, you can always perhaps shift back or find whatever that balances for you.

But make no mistake, there will most likely be a new set of people in the new situation. You can almost say we're kind of waiting for you to show up. And the people that are the people that are enjoying whatever it is that you're now into and they're oh great another person in their community They're happy now, too.

So it doesn't have to be a negative thing. It doesn't have to be a dramatic thing It doesn't have to be a hurtful thing. It doesn't have to be a judgmental thing I hope you find this helpful If you have any questions on this feel free to put them in the comment section below or shoot me an email to Wade at 4dayworkweek.com. That's Wade at the number 4dayworkweek. com.

As always, I look forward to helping you make more money in less time, do what you do best, so you can create the life and the lifestyle you most desire for you, your loved ones, and your life. Thank you.