Update the way you measure success & happiness in business and life.

Update the way you measure success & happiness in business and life.

Sometimes we get so hyper-focused on the QUANTITY in our lives that we lose sight of the QUALITY dimensions.

Anyone who's achieved high levels of success, even temporarily, knows that the numbers (dollars, fans, followers, likes, downloads) only keep us happy temporarily.

​The question is, "How do we balance the two?"

Hey everybody, hope you are doing awesome. Today I have a very simple message. It's one that most of us understand, but very often we don't practice. And it's a very simple concept that numbers are rarely going to be enough to make us happy. or fulfilled, or content, or blissful in the long run and that people very often are enough.

Now, this is not an advocate for you depending on one particular relationship, but simply looking at the idea that very often we get caught up in measuring things. We get caught up in how many followers do we have? How many likes did we get? How many downloads did we get? How much money did we make? How many sales did we make?

All of these things are important in the work world, as entrepreneurs, as employees, as freelancers, whatever type of way you pay the bills. And certainly it's important that we're able to pay our bills, and maintain our lifestyle, and to carry on our financial obligations. At the same time, I'd invite you to consider, are you at a stage where your obligations, your needs, financially, are met to a point where You actually have a lot of wants in your life.

Not just things that you need, but things that you want, which is again great, but perhaps to a point where there is such a focus on numbers that maybe you don't need that strong of a focus. And again, this is not a knock on numbers or productivity. It's about looking at where does it fall in balance. So, as somebody who has a podcast, very often, I'll find myself obsessing over the numbers.

And one of my friends, Alex Sanfilippo, taught me something a while back. He just reminded me. He said, look, I look at my numbers once a month. And, I think at times of, especially when I started my podcast, I'd go in every day. I'd refresh three, four, five times a day. And during that time, I wasn't getting stuff done, so it was not only something that was not productive for me, but it also wasn't helping me build greater connections, create greater relationships, or even get more business.

So I invite you to first consider what numbers or metrics are less important than you've made them. Thank you. And maybe think of three of them. So it might be that these metrics are simply irrelevant in a productivity sense. So for example, some people who do a lot of social media realize very quickly that you can't eat likes and you can't buy stuff or pay for your rent with likes.

So likes are nice, but they don't pay the bills. So that's sort of one number that in some ways is just not even really all that important. It's an indicator, but it's an indirect indicator. And then it might be something where you say well actually Wade, once I reach a certain amount of income, I'm fine.

So there's a study that was done in the United States, concluded that once people reached an income of 70, 000 US dollars per year, that everything above that, they really didn't become a whole lot happier. And that's because at least at the time of the study, that income in the United States culture was enough for most people to have their needs met, a nice roof over their house, good transportation, a cell phone, cable TV, food, whatever it might be.

And so everything else above that might be nice and certainly might be more comfortable. And I'm certainly a fan of having more money than having less money. But at the end of the day, the extra effort might not have been worth it. So again, what are three metrics? are less important than you've made them, because these might be some things you can perhaps give yourself a break on and not be so serious about.

And then on the flip side of that, I invite you to consider, what three relationships do you need to or want to invest more time with? And very often there is a trade off. Very often if we're so focused on our numbers, we can put those in front of the people that are most important to us, who And we miss out on things.

And so as somebody who has been an entrepreneur for over 20 years, I certainly know there's times when we're stressing and we're trying to make a deadline. We're trying to make sure we get the results we need to hit a certain target and to be able to afford things. And that's extremely important. We want to be able to do those.

And in those times, it's very easy for us to lose sight of relationships. And it doesn't mean we lose sight of their value, but we simply don't make time for them. So we can value people a lot, but if we don't have time for them, then there's kind of a disconnect there. And then also there's that just generic sense of while we're doing that, not only are they missing out on the connection, but we are.

We're perhaps going further into that connection. level of almost obsession with our numbers and trying and constantly just pushing and trying to be more rather than being who we are. Focusing so much on trying to make things happen rather than being okay with where we are. And so again, overall, if you're an entrepreneur, if you're any sort of person, obviously at some point, numbers are important.

We need to pay bills, we need to figure out, you know, how we make things work, we need to negotiate salaries, we need to help people, and that is extremely important. But there's a certain point where, if those numbers begin to cloud our judgment as to who's most important to us, or what in our life, activity wise, that even a relationship with ourself, or, Our, you know, connection with the divine if we have one of those and if that's important to us.

That we make sure that we keep a balance on those. So again, think about three numbers or metrics that are less important than you've made them. And then also look at what are three relationships you need to invest more time with. And very often, those two might have a tie in to where, Obsessing less over those numbers might allow you to free up time for those relationships that are so important to you.

So I hope you're doing awesome wherever you're at. This is probably a reminder for you, not meant to be a lecture or a soapbox talk, but something to keep us all reminded about what's most important to us. If this is something you'd like more help with, or to join a community of people who are focused on this, uh, feel free to go to threedayweekendclub.

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And then separately from that. There's the Entrepreneur Club part, which is focused on helping you, if you're an entrepreneur, or a freelancer, or a side hustler, to grow your business and grow your income as well. And there's also very soon coming out our Employee Club, to help employees do that as well, to look for and or negotiate those three day weekend situations or four day work week opportunities, however you want to word that, and be able to make that happen as well.

So again, if you want to learn more about that, go to threedayweekendclub. com. Whatever your situation, wherever you're at. I look forward to helping you help more people with your work and make more money, do what you do best, so you can better enjoy your family, your friends, and your life. Thanks so much for listening.

​God bless and hope you have an awesome week.